I am really enjoying this book and I hope that you are too. Sometimes I disagree with the authors and sometimes I have to turn around and look really hard at myself and am convicted. I will definitely walk away from this book a better mom. I will definitely walk away knowing that I am not alone. And that just excites me. I love that feeling. Sidenote- I watched "What To Expect When You're Expecting" the other day and at the end Elizabeth Bank's character says that she finally found her glow in her son. I 100% agree. My children are my glow because I definitely didn't have it when I was pregnant.This week we are only going to concentrate on Chapter 7 because it is such an eye opening chapter for me.
"Selfishness is the very root of sin." (SC pg 78) I did not really consider myself selfish as a mom until I read this chapter. I rarely get myself anything even if I need it so that the boys can get something whether they need it or not. We rarely go anywhere just John and I so that the boys can go with us. I never really considered the fact that I was selfish with my down time. Sometimes I have to be so that our house actually gets cleaned but about 80% of the time it is because I choose to be. And I know that it is more so now than when I was working because most days by 5 o'clock I am just spent. And I know that I need the time for myself but I have gotten very stingy with my time lately. I would rather sit there and read my book or watch a movie then play with the boys. Or spend my time trying to plan an anniversary trip for next month then think about the fact that the boys want to go see Monster Jam in Tallahassee this month and it is really going to become a choice between the two expense wise. (I think that anyone can see the appeal of meeting Willie and Si from "Duck Dynasty" without kids vs watching a bunch of monster trucks with the kids) I know which one will actually happen it is just a matter of wishing. Since I am such a quote person here are the quotes that really got me from this chapter.
-"Selfishness is an ugly, life-sucking disease that infests our very DNA." SM pg 80
-"Pride, that ugly beast that convinces us we are better, above, more important. If we didn't believe these things to be true we'd easily lay aside our own agendas and offer our lives to our babes in order to give them the time and training and actual love that they need. You and I, we love our children to the core of our beings. We would die for them. But for some reason, we have a hard time putting away our books, or our computers, or our crafts in order to serve them, train them, encourage them, and fill their souls with life. Every day." SM pg 81
-"We will have to choose patience and kindness over frustration and giving up. We'll have to choose to take time to train and teach and perhaps discipline. The choosing to engage means choosing to do the hard work of loving through our actions." SM pg 81-82
-"Ask Jesus to help you, to mature you, to teach you how to begin laying down whatever it is that has your attention and choose to offer yourself to the souls in your care." SM pg 82
-"If we put hard work now, we have a great possibility of seeing the fruit later. If you want to do the hard work, there are two things I can recommend as being beneficial: commit to being faithful, and then walk out your commitment by faith." SM pg 83
-"Day in and day out we give to our children, and it's a privilege to do so. I'm thankful for the opportunity to pour into my children, but when we choose to give the best of ourselves to them, we will need a break, or we will break. We'll get desperate." SM pg 84
-"I needed the dreadful "me" time. I say the "dreadful" because "me" time has a selfish connotations, and I didn't want to be a selfish woman. ... I think it's more selfish to go crazy and then not be fully alive for your children." SM pg 84
-" One of the marks of a godly woman is that she takes responsibility for her soul's needs for joy and delight." SC pg 86
-"God gave me my personality."- SC pg 86
-"Living by performance always kills our souls because none of us are perfect mothers, and we will fail in some areas, so we need to live by God's approval and mercy to feel His grace." SC pg 88
-"In taking responsibility for being a conductor of the music of your and your family's life, you will find joy and fulfillment...." SC pg 89
JOHN 13: 12-14
"So when He has washed their feet, and taken His garments and reclined at the table again, He said to them, 'Do you know what I have done to you? You call me Teacher and Lord; and you are right, for so I am. If I then, the Lord and the Teacher, washed your feet, you also ought to wash one another's feet."
"Greater love has no one than this, that one lay down his life for his friends."