Wednesday, July 31, 2013
I started out only going to write these posts once a quarter but then I started reading so much that it was overwhelming. So here is what I have read this month.
1. "Bed of Roses"- Nora Roberts*
2. Parents Playbook for Learning- Jill Lilienstein
3. Finding Bliss- Dina Silver
4. Will in Scarlett- Matthew Cody
5. The Tudor Conspiracy- C.W. Gortner
6. Divergent- Veronica Roth
7. Insurgent- Veronica Roth
8. Clockwork Angel- Cassandra Clare
9. Vision in White- Nora Roberts*
10. Happily Ever After- Nora Roberts*
11. King of Little Things- Bill Lepp and Daniel T. Wenzel
12. The Bramble-Lee Nordling and Bruce Zick
13. Fifteen Minutes- Karen Kingsbury
14. Hot Shot- Julie Garwood
15. Shadow Hunters and Downworlders- Cassandra Clare
16. Clockwork Prince- Cassandra Clare
17. Clockwork Princess- Cassandra Clare
18. Even Now- Karen Kingsbury
19. Ever After- Karen Kingsbury
20. Matched- Allie Condie
21. Mercy- Julie Garwood*
22. Ideal Man- Julie Garwood*
23. Sweet Talk- Julie Garwood*
24. Heartbreaker- Julie Garwood*
25. The 21 Toughest Questions Your Kids Will Ask About Christianity and How To Answer Them Confidently- Alex McFarland
26. Making the "Terrible" Twos Terrific- John Rosemond
27. A Little Salty to Cut the Sweet- Sophie Hudson
28. Forbidden Heart- V.C. Andrews
* indicates a book I have read before and reread this month.
Tuesday, July 30, 2013
My husband didn't have a happy childhood and he will willingly admit that to anyone. There was no physical abuse of any kind but over the years I have come to realize the emotional abuse that was there and so has he. I don't think any of it was intentional just one generation following in the previous ones footsteps. And he quickly started doing the same things. But unlike his dad- he found solace in alcohol. You can ignore a lot of things when you drink. But you can also add to the things you are trying to ignore. I didn't say much. He wasn't abusive physically and emotionally it wasn't that bad for a while. Well that and I ignored a lot. But it builds up. There is only so much one person can take. And after a lie told by someone who was supposedly a good friend, I left. It had just become too much. Because after a motorcycle accident involving beer and a slip and slide after an argument with his dad resulted in needing to go back to work earlier than expected after having my fourth child plus all the hormonal upheaval that went with it- it was just to much.
Then the drinking stopped. But the arguing didn't. I came back home and we seemed like we were stronger for it. And in some ways we were. But two years and four months later it became evident that we weren't as strong as we thought. The drinking was back and the anger was so much worse. And then the full story of the betrayal of the friend came out. And the hurt was back all over again. And the old issues resurfaced and life got hard again. But we muddled through.
I have loved him through a lot. And I know there will be a lot more to come. He has loved me through a lot- it is not all one sided. And we still have a long way to go.
The thing about loving through the hardtimes is that it is a choice. A choice that you make everyday. You can't have happily ever after without work. You made vows to each other and to God to love, honor, and cherish until death do you part. You have to honor that. Today it is easier to just throw it away and start over because society tells you it is okay. Get married as many times as you want, the more the better. And I'm not saying stay in an abusive relationship- by no means am I saying that. Nor am I saying stay married to someone who is having affair after affair. But I am saying that getting a divorce because you had a fight or because you just are tired of the same person everyday is not an option. Working through it and dealing with it is hard. But it is the right choice. There are always going to be the people who say that it's easier to leave but what about kids in the relationship. Is it easier on them? Or what happens if you realize what a mistake it was to walk away and that person you love so dearly is gone?
Love is a choice no matter what. Choosing to love no matter what will make you stronger in the end. There are exceptions. And please if you are being abused get out and get help. But leaving because you don't like the way they make coffee or you don't like their job is not an exception. Choose to love them anyway.
Monday, July 29, 2013
For a while emails and phone calls kept some of us in touch. And then there were visits for the first couple of years. But as all things do with distance- the visits just kind of fizzled out followed by the phone calls and emails. But then Myspace pops up. John opened an account first and then I quickly followed. A whole new frontier! We had pictures and updates and you could chat with people. My page was mostly filled with high school friends and a few locals, I was in love. Then I found Facebook. You know what, I didn't like it at first. Myspace would let you design a page, blog there, and so much more. But slowly Facebook won me over. More people were on there. It had an easier format. And I started a blog so I didn't need that blogging component at Myspace. Gradually my Myspace page fizzled like those long ago emails, phone calls, and visits. Now we had Facebook. We knew what was going on with everyone everyday. Reunions were planned through it and so much more. You could easily maintain friendships from half a country away. I was in love! And I still am.
But there is not the seeing someone face to face with Facebook. Or hugging them when they need it. There isn't the real life part of it. However, you know when people are going to the beach. And for me that means they are coming less than an hour from me so I can go meet them for lunch on the way home or the way to the beach. And that's exactly what happened this past weekend.
I got to see my maid of honor for the first time in 6 years! I was so excited. Her family was coming home from the beach and I had to do some school shopping so we decided to meet for lunch. It was so much fun! I loved it. And only when I got home and my husband asked to see pictures did I realize we didn't take any. We forgot. But we got to see each other. We got to talk to each other's children. We had real life. We went beyond Facebook for the day.
We need that. We need to look beyond the constraints of this wonderful way of keeping in touch and keep it real. We need to cultivate old and new friendships with face to face meetings even if they are every six years. It builds us as friends and as individuals. Because as much as I love my online friends in places like California and Canada because they are a lifeline through dreams and heartache- they aren't as deep as the friends you see in person. The ones who come to your house for supper or you go to birthday parties for their kids. They are online. And until you really meet that person, you don't know everything.
Don't lose the online friends- mine are a God sent blessing. But remember the importance of the face to face friends too. Don't let all your local friendships fall to Facebook. Keep them real. You need that interaction. You need the blessing of the (in)real life friends. Take friendships beyond Facebook.
Wednesday, July 24, 2013
The water in my yard is ankle deep. And let's not even mention the fact that I can't get all the way in my yard and have to walk a pretty good distance to get to my house. Now the upside to this is that I have a valid excuse not to leave the house until the first day of school next week. But I had so many plans for this last week of summer: $ 4 movies, school supply shopping, shoe shopping, and various haircuts, etc. Now I am spending a lot of time stuck in a house with four boys who desperately want to go outside. The new plan is to only go out Saturday for shoes and supplies for the middle schooler who is abandoning us. However, there are huge crawfish and small brim swimming in my yard so we may go fishing from the porch tomorrow. I will make the best of this rain and my flooded yard. And try not to go crazy in the process.
Tuesday, July 23, 2013
I am excited. I watched the wedding and I will watch them leave the hospital. And I will stalk their webpage until they release the baby pictures because that is how I roll. Either way- Congratulations to the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge on the new son.
Friday, July 19, 2013
What you do:
Pre-heat the oven to 400 degrees
Cut the dates so that they open flat but are still together
Fill the middle with goat cheese and close them up
Cut the bacon slices in half
Wrap each date in half a slice of bacon.
Place on a baking sheet and put in the oven
Bake for 20 mins or until bacon is crispy
Remove from oven and let cool for 5 mins.
Are you reading the book "Bread and Wine" with us? What recipes have you tried?
Thursday, July 18, 2013
How do you handle the middle school "drama" at your house????
Wednesday, July 17, 2013
Tuesday, July 16, 2013
Monday, July 15, 2013
3-4 Red Delicious Apples
A Crock Pot
What you do:
Cut the apples up into slices. Line the bottom of the crockpot with some of the apple slices. Sprinkle with cinnamon.
Cut slits in the pork loin. Drizzle some honey into each slit and then place 1 or 2 apple slices in each slit (depends on the size of your apples and your pork loin). Now place the pork loin into the crockpot. (I found this was easier than trying to put in the apple slices and honey after the loin was in the crockpot).
Drizzle some honey on the top of the pork loin.
Now place the remaining apple slices on top of the pork loin and sprinkle cinnamon on top.
Cook on high for 7 hours.
***I don't use exact measurements on the cinnamon and honey because a lot of it depends on the size of your pork loin.***
What is your favorite way to cook pork loin?
Friday, July 12, 2013
Looking for a good beach read? Here's one.
Finding Bliss by Dina Silver follows the story of Chloe and Tyler. Chloe works for the Reed's babysitting their younger two children. She has always seen pictures of their oldest child, Tyler, and of course knows of him from school. As the summer progresses so does their relationship. We then follow them through college and on to their happily ever after- or not.
What I liked about the book:
1. Great book for reading by the pool or on the beach.
2. Not too long and you don't get bogged down in "filler" details.
3. You really find yourself rooting for Chloe no matter what.
4. The author has a way with words that makes visualizing the story line perfect.
What I didn't like about the book:
1. Predictable. You knew where the book was going half way through.
2. The end leaves you hanging (and hoping there will be another book about the characters).
I definitely recommend this one for the beach (or pool or lake) and of course now also have it on my Nook.
***I received this book through Netgalley in exchange for my unbiased review.***
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Thursday, July 11, 2013
Wednesday, July 10, 2013
Any tricks to this whole night training thing????
Tuesday, July 9, 2013
DO you have pictures in your kitchen?
Friday, July 5, 2013
***I received this book through Netgalley in exchange for my unbiased opinion. ***
What you need:
1-2 pounds of ground beef (I use 2 because I feed 6 people)
2 cans of pillsbury crescent rolls
1- 8oz container of sour cream
1 package of taco seasoning
1 cup of cheese
What you do:
Brown your ground beef and then drain it. Add the taco seasoning according to the package instructions. While the meat is simmering, spray a 9x13 casserole dish with cooking spray, then line it with the crescent rolls. Make sure you cover the bottom and press together the seams. Place the dish in an oven set at 400 degrees for 10 minutes. (I didn't use to do this but the bottom middle of my "crust" was never done so I started and it works out great). Take the "crust" out of the oven and sit to the side while you still the sour cream into the ground beef. Now pour the ground beef onto the crust and spread it out evenly. Cover the top generously with cheese and place back in the oven for 20 mins. Take it out, let it cool for about 10 mins, and serve it to your family.
What is your favorite casserole to make?
Wednesday, July 3, 2013
Do you and your family have any plans for the 4th of July?
Tuesday, July 2, 2013
|I still need to do the switch and outlet covers as well but I forgot to pick them up the other day so I have to go get them.|
|These walls are painted Cool Sky by Behr.|
|This wall is painted primer gray. We really liked it when we got it on the wall so we left it.|
|This plate rack is from Southern Living at Home circa 2006ish. The pictures were actually in a frame from Target but the frame broke and I still liked the pictures so I kept them.|
|Shelf from Southern Living at Home circa 2006 ish. Lantern from Celebrating Home, Vase from Dayspring.com, and of course a Willowtree figuring from my collection.|
|Picture from Celebrating Home circa 2009|
|Tree from Celebrating Home|
|Mirror from Celebrating Home circa 2009|