We all know about love languages. There are 5- words of affirmation, acts of service, gifts, touch, and quality time. I have found it funny how all my boys and my husband have touch as their primary love language and yet it is on the bottom of my list. My primary love language is acts of service which seems to be on the bottom of their list. And I am now finding out something else- there are apology languages too! (Yes, the book is written by the same guy but it is dead on.) And guess what- everybody in this household has different apology languages too.
What is an apology language and what does that mean for me? Apology languages are how you apologize and what you expect from and apology. Some people expect just and "I'm sorry" while others give and expect a full out hour long apology listing all the wrongs committed with acknowledgement of the hurt caused followed by asking for forgiveness. By learning these languages for the ones around us and for ourselves we can more effectively handle apologizing and accepting the apology.
I will be honest and say that I haven't really figured out my language yet but I have figured out my kids. The younger three want to say "I'm sorry" and move on while the oldest one wants an apology and a plan of action for it not to happen again. I think that John falls more into the "I'm sorry" and move on category. I am a good mixture of all of them depending on the situation.
So the five apology languages are:
1. Expressing Regret
2. Accepting Responsibility
3. Making Restitution
4. Genuinely Repenting
5. Requesting Forgiveness
Like the love languages the names for each language pretty much explains itself. The two languages also seem to run closely together. It is definitely an interesting study for everyone to do and see what their languages are. It would help in a lot of situations.
Are you asking yourself yet where I learned all of this?
I read this book:
It really is such a good book. I understand my husband and my kids a little bit better now. And if I can convince him to read it I think that my husband would understand me a little better too.
**I received this book from Moody Publishers in exchange for my review. All opinions are my own.
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