Thursday, October 31, 2013
So here is a little preview of some things that you will see in the near future:
- Allume handed me a new dream. One that I am holding close to my heart for now but I will soon (Decemberish) do a Video post all about it.
- Allume also asked me to step out of my comfort zone so we are going to be getting uncomfortable on here when I get back to normal.
- I discovered a new organization and you will be hearing all about it and how to be involved.
- And of course there will continue to be reviews and giveaways so keep a look out for them.
So I will see you soon and I am looking forward to what is to come!
Wednesday, October 30, 2013
So here's the deal. I am not a perfect mom. I have no plans to be. Perfection is over rated. I feel like greatness comes from failure and so it must be going to happen soon as much failing as I am doing. Someone told me that they didn't like a certain blogger because she felt that blogger gave moms permission to not strive for perfection. Well- I love that blogger. Because I can relate. I am absolutely not saying don't strive to be the best mom for your kids but I don't want to be perfect. I sometimes feel like bloggers give off that "I'm perfect. I do no wrong." vibe. And I want to apologize now if I have ever done that.
My house is a mess. I still have not unpacked from this past weekend. And I have not cooked since being at home. There really is no plans for that to happen before tomorrow. I am exhausted. I have a very short fuse. AND we have soccer practice tonight. My head is full of ideas and posts and I just want to get them out and onto paper (or screen) before they fly back out again. So the housework will suffer for a couple of days. As is the cooking because let's face it that just is not on my interest radar for right now. It will be okay though. I promise. Because it will get done- eventually.
I tried that whole not yelling at my kids challenge. Complete and utter FAILURE. I didn't make it one day. I didn't make it a full hour through today. I have some hard headed children and sometimes that is the only way that they stop and listen.
I spank my kids. I know that is taboo today but oh well. It works in our house. I actually had someone threaten to call the cops on me last week because I spanked my 3 year old after he ran out into the parking lot at soccer practice. I told them to go ahead. Needless to say she didn't do it. It's not child abuse to spank your kids. It's being a parent. It's teaching them that there are consequences to their actions.
I let them eat ice cream for breakfast (or lunch). Somedays it's okay to do that. I wouldn't do it everyday but every once in awhile. Go ahead and admit that you do it for yourself. Let the kids in on it every once in awhile.
They have holes in their underwear. I readily admit that especially after hearing Ann Voskamp admit it about her household. I can't even tell you where the holes came from. But I can promise you that a couple of them came from climbing trees and acting a fool outside because I have seen the pants that they have torn the holes in too.
I don't always engage with my children like I should. Somedays I let them go play outside while I sit on the couch and read a book or watch Hulu. I need the break and they do too. And somedays I use this computer and social media as an escape to ignore their yelling and bickering.
I am not a perfect mom, wife, person. I don't want to be. Because being perfect means that you need no one. And we all need God. We all need Jesus. And perfection does not exist without them. I am content to be broken and imperfect and to fail- because that makes me have to rely on God. To hand things over to him. I will take that over perfect any day of the week. That does not mean that I am happy with my brokenness all the time. But I am happy to know that I can hand it over to God and he is going to do a better job that I ever could do on my own.
Tuesday, October 29, 2013
I am glad that I "knew" my dream sisters before going I will honestly admit. But I had never met them inRL. So after driving to Tallahassee and finding this house (and my GPS taking me on the very scenic route to there and Starbucks) I walk up to the front door. From the second she opened the door I knew that this completely online friendship became a sisterhood. We drove for a little over 8 hours even though it was only supposed to take 6 and a half. We played the game of dueling GPS's and took a lot of wrong turns. Most of them were because we were talking so much we paid no attention to those GPS's. We FINALLY get to Greenville and check into our hotel room. This was quickly followed by a late night of talking with new inRL friends but old online friends. This online friendship that seamlessly flowed into real life is still amazing me today. We are sisters and it was not a meeting of friends it was a family reunion. When we met up with the rest of these amazing women on Thursday the family reunion only continued. I am grateful for these women who helped to keep me grounded and engaged the entire time.
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That first night was filled with uncomfortableness and awe. I've said it before and I will say it again here. I am Church of Christ. So worship music with instrumentals, hands raised, and non-hymnal is not my norm. I love "Christian" music and I love to sing it but it has never been in my vocabulary as "worship" music- until this trip. Y'all- I have been doing it all wrong. I am not saying that I think instrumental music has a place in my worship service by no means. I am saying that seeing these men and women at this conference sing with eyes closed, hands raised, and their whole heart and mind focused on God and Jesus was eye opening and convictional (don't you love how I make up words sometimes?). I sat there uncomfortable but in awe. And then Ann Voskamp starts to speak. Oh my word. God pours out of this women in a way that you can't help but stop and listen. She is so soft spoken, kind, and lovely in person and then she stands on stage and she is powerful. Her voice does not have to be more this soft spoken lyrical music but there is power behind it. A power that says God is here. God loves you. God wants you! Oh be still my heart!!!!
Monday, October 28, 2013
How do you spend quiet time? What do you do during your quiet time?
Sunday, October 27, 2013
So as much as I would love to have someone else help me wash dishes and I do often hand that chore off to my oldest, I cannot be in the room when someone else does it. I want to go in and take over because no one else in the house will wash them in the right order. I may or may not rewash a glass before I use it if someone else has done the dishes.
Oh and they are absolutely never washed as well if you use another liquid other than Dawn.
Are you a little OCD about any particular chore? Do you wash your dishes in a certain order?
Saturday, October 26, 2013
Eden and Rafe have been through a lot. Then a fire almost takes Eden's life and Rafe loses his eyesight. A series of misunderstandings leads to heartbreak for them both. With strife in the Hawaiian government and both families heavily involved, will they find there way back to each other?
Even though this is the 3rd book in a series it is able to hold its own. You can invest in the story and the characters without a lot of the background provided in the first 2 books. You definitely find yourself getting mad at some characters and cheering others on. And you know how you are watching a movie and you keep telling the characters to watch out or keep going? You definitely do that here.
This is a period in history that I actually don't know a lot about but this book made me interested. The story is set before Hawaii becomes a territory of the United States and tells a little of the history of the leper island communities. It is definitely an interesting time in history.
In my opinion a good book plays out in your head like a movie. This is one of those books. I found myself wishing that someone could turn this book into a movie until I remembered how much they would change to do it. Suspenseful, page turner is just one way to describe the story. I enjoyed reading it and absolutely did not see all the twists that came.
Great ending to the story but it is also left open for further stories about the characters. I am adding Henderson to my authors to look for list and will be looking for new books by her.
**I received "Jewel of the Pacific" from Moody Publishers in exchange for my review. All opinions are my own. **
***I received "Unspoken" from Bethany House Publishers in exchange for my review. All opinions are my own.***
Friday, October 25, 2013
I am also a to-do list fanatic. I have to have a to-do list if I am going to get anything done around the house. It's the way that I function. So I make a to-do list every morning. And I stay with it. And if it doesn't get done it gets moved to the next day. I try my best to stick to the list.
Life became easier for me when I realized that making realistic to-do lists was the key to my success. You may be different. For me lists are the key. What is organizational style????
Thursday, October 24, 2013
Tonight was the first night of Allume! I have met some of the greatest people, had a road trip of 8 hours to get here (it was only supposed to be 6), had the most amazing conversations, and have been this complete extrovert at times that I do not recognize. After almost having to cancel my trip a couple of weeks ago, I came to Allume with no expectations, no lists, and more of a faith that God would put me where he wants me with the people he wants me with. He has honestly already done this and I stand (or sit in the bed) in awe of the power he has here. My goal became go grow in God and don't worry about growing the blog about the time the whole ticket craziness happened and I am telling you if the next 3 days are like the last 2, I will meet that goal because I already have. These women from my Dream Team are like family- there is no holding back with them. I met one of the amazing ladies from the (In) Courager group that I lead. I met Lisa Jo Baker and I was so star struck I didnt think to get a picture. I also met Bianca Olthoff in the bathroom tonight. I felt so stupid turning around from washing my hands and introducing myself but I knew I would never get another chance. So I met her in the bathroom. Seriously! I am already blessed beyond measure from this trip and can't thank Michelle Pickle Statefarm, a consignment sale, and my hubby enough for this trip!
Wednesday, October 23, 2013
Tuesday, October 22, 2013
The circus is coming to town! And Willow is excited. She wants to see the show and to eat pink cotton candy. But on her way to the circus, Willow keeps meeting temptations. So by the time she gets to the circus, she doesn't have the money to get pink cotton candy and she is too late to see the show. Willow is given a second chance to do it again the next day. Did she learn her lesson? Can she say no?
This book was a fun story that kept my 3 year engaged. The illustrations are colorful and very well drawn. It is a fun, interactive story that also teaches a valuable lesson. Great, great book!
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Monday, October 21, 2013
I used this book back at the beginning of the year to help set up a notebook that contains everything that I use-
Sunday, October 20, 2013
Just because it is church does not mean that it is necessarily always a yes.
Saturday, October 19, 2013
Again- these are in no particular order. I love all these books and I have a lot more. You would be surprised what you can learn from these books. Even if it is just a greater understanding of your spouse.
Friday, October 18, 2013
These are in no particular order and there are several more. These are just my top 5. These books will definitely make you feel like you are not alone and that you have a support group. I am so honored to call Kayse and Teri Lynne friends as well. Teri Lynne is definitely a mentor and Kayse is too.
And if you are in a new place- make friends at church. It's your best bet. Also remember that you have an online community with Facebook and Twitter that will encourage you and help with advice. Just be prepared for more than you bargain for sometimes.
Thursday, October 17, 2013
I personally want friends for my kids who are from christian homes, manners are taught and expected, their is no bullying among them, and they encourage each other. You have to take the time to meet and get to know the kids your kid is hanging out with and you have to get to know their families. Being friends with their moms is always a plus. And if you don't like what you see and find out- stop the friendship. It's a tough job but you have to do it.
Pay attention to your own child. Don't compare him/ her to other children. And if their behavior changes find the source. If it is a certain friend, explain to your child why you don't approve of that friend and why you don't want them to be your child's friend. That will go a long way.
So get to know these kids. But always be a parent first.
Wednesday, October 16, 2013
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Tuesday, October 15, 2013
- At 10 weeks pregnant, I laid down
and took a nap with my then 3 year old son. I woke up bleeding. I
went to the emergency room and waited. The OB never showed up after
countless times telling them she was coming. After several IV
attempts, an exam, and a lot of tears I was wheeled into ultrasound.
They turned the screen away. I was alone with just the technician.
No one to hold my hand or comfort me. She found a heartbeat and a
baby. And an empty sac. She didn't tell me that. The ER doctor told
me I was dehydrated and made me an appointment with a different OB
for first thing the next morning. I went home. I stayed in bed like
I was told in a semi- reclined position. I prayed hard. The next
day, John and I went to the OB expecting the worst kind of news.
They did another ultrasound. Again- a heartbeat, a baby, and an
empty sac. We went to an exam room and waited for the doctor. He
came in and told us that there were 2 babies but now there was 1.
There is an emotional roller coaster that you go on, that unless you
have been there you will never understand. I blamed myself, I
blamed John, I blamed the world. We will never actually know if that
baby was a boy or a girl but I strongly feel that it was the girl
that we have since desired. And I will see her again one day. I
remember her everyday. I miss her everyday. I love her everyday. She
is still my baby. She never came into this world but she is still in
- I am just going to send you over to Ashly's blog. She tells her story better than I can even begin too. Brooks is still loved and remembered. And his life is leaving a lasting impact on those around him. http://onceuponatucker.blogspot.com/2008/11/is-this-actually-happening-to-us.html
- As heartbreaking as pregnancy loss is and even infant loss at birth, losing your child after having the joys of loving them and holding them in your arms for any amount of time is worse. It is a heartbreak all it's own. And to not be able to have the answers for why your child is gone is just devastating. And while it has not happened to us personally, it has happened to some friends and I can not even begin to describe the absolute heartbreak and devastation that has been left behind. Sealie Ellis Harrell- such a happy, beautiful, healthy baby boy. He was dreamed about and prayed for. And then the unthinkable. He was unresponsive in his bed at daycare. No answers past SIDS. No answers to the why this baby. I am going to tell you- the look in his mom's eyes the next day will haunt me forever. Because there was nothing that I could do. Nothing that I could say would ever be enough. All I can do is continue to pray for her and her husband. And be there if there is anything that they need.
Monday, October 14, 2013
Your parents drop in with no prior warning and want to come to dinner. Every once in a while that's fine. But several times a week- not so much. Your house will is a mess, you're exhausted, and you were planning on PBJ for supper because it's all you can muster. That visit can go one of two ways. You can say "Come on in. Watch the kids for awhile. And hey, do you mind helping me cook too?" And this is the one I would recommend most of the time. And they may even take pity on you and help clean up a little. But if they say "no" then you should probably as politely as possible figure out a way to say no too. Even better yet, set guidelines before hand. No drop ins unless you come bearing food. Or "please call first if we haven't asked you over. We may not be having a good day." Most parents are going to respect that. If they don't, well you can decide how to handle that. I don't recommend slamming the door in their face but if that's what it takes- just don't burn that bridge.
Same thing goes for friends. Say no. Set guidelines. Schedule things. Respect each others boundaries. I am going to include siblings and cousins in the "friend" mix because at this point in your life that's what they are. Make sure that you all understand that the occasional drop by is cool BUT call first. Schedule dinners and playdates but don't over book yourself. Limit it. You need rest and if you are always on the go, you're not going to get it. In fact, you are going to grow to dread them.
Don't not have friendships and don't miss out on the great opportunities to build grandparent relations but limit it. And learn to say no. Set boundaries and learn to be firm in them.
Sunday, October 13, 2013
Saturday, October 12, 2013
Friday, October 11, 2013
Thursday, October 10, 2013
Wednesday, October 9, 2013
Tuesday, October 8, 2013
Monday, October 7, 2013
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One thing that is important to think about is that you will be married to this man long after the kids have left. Do you want to be married to a stranger? I didn't think so. Things are a little different when you have little, little kids running around. They demand a lot of your time and your attention. I will be the first to admit, sometimes the husband gets lost in the shuffle. During those years, a text saying "I love you", holding hands while sitting on the couch, giving him compliments, and even leaving the dishes in the sink to spend 5 minutes of uninterrupted time with him will make a huge difference.
I keep hearing about this thing called "date night". We have that. It's called Christmas shopping, Easter shopping, and occasionally our anniversary. And 2 of those events don't even involve us being together- just in the same store with separate lists. So here's the thing. "Date night" does not have to be going out. It can be cooking at home together and then watching a movie after the kids have gone to bed. The point is that date night is not that big of a deal- although I keep being told it is. Date night is just a extra treat when it actually happens. The big deal is that you are together. You are focused on each other.
My husband and I have this system. It's called he goes and works 2 jobs and I stay at home and raise the kids. That means very little time together. Because one of those jobs is rotating shift work. For example- last week was 4-12 shift at his "main" job. So he gets up and leaves the house by 8 to go to one job, leaves there at 3 to go to the other job, gets off from that job at midnight, comes home, and goes to bed. The only time we see each other is the 30 minutes while he is getting ready. When I worked full time I didn't even see him then because I was already gone when he got up. SO that is one week every month gone. But we talk. All day. We text back and forth the entire time. We stay together even though we can't be together. We make it work. We are deliberate.
Because that's what marriage is. A deliberate choice. You have to chose to make it work. We could go on and not talk or see each other that week, but we would suffer for it.
So the key to balancing marriage among this thing called motherhood is to be deliberate! Put effort behind it. Sit next to him on the couch. Kiss him in front of the kids. Always tell him you love him. Hold his hand whenever you can. Send him a text everyday. Pray for him. Pray with him. Be deliberate with him.
My dear friend Kayse is at it again. In January she showed us how to organize our family notebook (which I use A LOT in my house) and now she is showing us how to be undivided moms. This 15 day devotional e-book is perfect for all us moms who are trying to be undivided in our attention to our children. Every odd day is a scripture devotional and every even day is a funny little story and what Kayse learned from it. Now my favorite is the toilet paper tasting in the bathroom.
Filled with reminders that you are the daughter of a king and that you are not forgotten, Kayse gives us permission to have grace with ourselves. She reminds us of our calling, "Jesus has called us to be wives and mothers, yes. But first and foremost, he has called us to Himself!" (8). She challenges us to remember that God and Jesus are the one thing that we need each day.
Kayse also challenges us to be undivided when it comes to our families. To put down the phones and the computers and focus on our children; to know "that boundaries need to be set so that priorities can remain" (17). Our children are only little for so long. How do you want them to remember you? That you always had a phone in your hand, that you never made time for them, or that Facebook was more important? I am guilty of always having my phone or being on the computer. I am focusing on doing better.
I am honored to call Kayse my friend and I am delighted to be able to introduce this book to you. Just click on the button below and buy this book. Also check out the printables and her first book "Getting it Together" in her store while you are there. I promise that you will not be disappointed! Kayse is hosting a HUGE giveaway on her blog today. Click here and go check it out! She is also hosting a Twitter party tonight- invitation is below. Also if you sign up for my newsletter I will send you an exclusive coupon code for Kayse's ebooks.
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Sunday, October 6, 2013
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Saturday, October 5, 2013
You have a pretty chore chart with everything checked off at the end of the day/week.
You have a pretty chore chart with nothing checked off at the end of the week and you end up doing all the chores.
Everyone has a job and they all do it.
Everyone has a job but you do them all.
Everyone gets paid their allowance on Saturdays for a great job done all week.
Nobody gets their allowance including you even though you did all the work.
So, see my dilemma. I have tried everything. Chore charts, allowances, losing privileges, all of it. Nothing changes. And the work load just keeps getting bigger. SO here is the part where you all come in.
ANY SUGGESTIONS? TRIED AND TRUE METHODS? ANYTHING?
Because when it comes to balancing chores with my kids- I am an epic failure. So any and all advice would be appreciated.
Friday, October 4, 2013
I have 4 boys. It is hard to have one on one time with any of them. Most of the time the best we can hope for is time with just two of them. The goal in this as with every area of motherhood is to be deliberate. Schedule time for each child in your day. You would be surprised how much 5 mins of undivided attention a day will matter to a child.
My younger three have the advantage of being home with me all day. That means at some point during the day they will each have my undivided attention. For two of them that typically means when we are doing school and they are either reading out loud to me or I am explaining something to them. For the “baby”, that means at bedtime he gets held and rocked. It’s a little trickier with the oldest one. It is normally just the two of us up for about an hour each morning until the bus comes. But he is getting ready and he is not very talkative. Just trying to get him to talk to me for 5 minutes everyday is a challenge.
So I can sympathize with you. Especially if you have more than one child under the age of 5. Those were some rough years. It gets better though. I promise.
As hard as it is to get some one on one time at our house we do try and go to the grocery store with only two of the boys. That means we each get one and so for the hour it takes to go through Walmart and shop off of the list, we are one on one. If we go with all 4 then we split them 2 and 2. We find little ways to make it work. Even if it’s directly focusing part of the conversation on one child during a meal they are getting individual attention. It really does go a long way.
Be creative with this. And again be deliberate with it.
Thursday, October 3, 2013
This is the hardest thing I have ever done. I am far from being a teacher and this proves it everyday. But I get a lot more say in what my kids are learning than I did when they were in public school. It is also a lot of stress. And in full disclosure we do not do traditional homeschool. We are actually enrolled in a Georgia charter school named Georgia Cyber Academy. So my kids have teachers and they do everything that they would in a regular public school. But we have flexibility. If they are struggling then we slow down until they get it. We have teachers that we can go to if we need them. And all records are kept for the state without me having to do it. It also means that they do all state testing. However they are at home and I am their primary teacher. So the fact that Josh struggles with reading is all on me. I am their teacher. I am with them for all of it. And there are days that it is not a good thing. I am trying to balance being their mom with being their teacher and it is not easy at all.
It also is a lot of together time. Add that to a 3 year old who I had fully planned on starting school with this year and hello craziness. Needless to say he has not started school. It's all I can do some days to finish school with the other two. It takes on a whole new level of balance.
- Walk away if you are getting frustrated. It will only get worse.
- Remember that they are kids and they are learning.
- Ask for help if you need to.
-Take breaks and just go out in the yard or on a walk. When you come back, you will be surprised at the attitude change.
My oldest is in honor classes and also is involved in Academic Quiz Bowl. That being said I am sure that the amount of homework he has is proportional to that. But he comes home some days with 4 hours of homework. And somedays he comes home with "Parent homework". Oh yes, you read that right. Worksheets for ME to do. And then I see some of the stuff that is required from the classes that my other children would have been in and I AM SO GLAD THEY ARE AT HOME. I am all for being involved but y'all the amount of costumes, projects, and other things is bordering on crazy. And field trips plus the cost- don't even get me started.
So here is my advice:
- If you have kids in school and they have a project. LET THEM DO IT. It doesn't have to be perfect. It isn't expected to be. And teachers can tell the difference.
- You work. You can't go on every field trip. Try to go on at least one a year if you can.
- All these costumes can add up. Let your teachers know that you can't afford it and ask if they can try to limit them.
- If there is an award's ceremony- do your best to be there. I know that it isn't always possible. I've been there. But always make sure that your child knows how proud you are of them.
- Keep an open line of communication with all your kid's teachers. Ask them questions. Just don't badger them. And remember that ultimately the grades are your child's responsibility not the teachers. If they don't study or get help then the teacher can't do anything about the fact that they failed a test. She taught them. She is there if they have questions. Don't blame her for your child's grades.
School is one of those things that we either have all the control over or no control over. Be involved. Be proactive.
Wednesday, October 2, 2013
But you know what, it does absolutely no good for me to limit my technology use if I am not limiting my kids technology use.
I have 2 kids who use K12- an online virtual academy- for school. So a good portion of their day is online. But that is it. Those two are not allowed on any other websites. But they both have DS's and I have noticed a lot of time being spent on them. The new rule for both of them is that Sunday nights at 9 PM the DS goes up until Friday at 5 PM. No DS during the school week. And if for some reason they need to do school on Saturday, then the DS stays up until they are done. There are always exceptions to this rule, like a 2 hour drive one way to a field trip or an unexpected trip out of town. Then the DS is ONLY allowed after reading is complete.
My 13 year old is a completely different story. This kid is at school all day, has online research most nights, owns a DS, a PSP, and a Nook. AND he has a Facebook page. And he tests the boundary lines everyday. His rules are simple. No DS, PSP, or Facebook Sunday evening through Friday afternoon. And the Nook is allowed out only after he has completed everything else. Simple rules that require vigilance because he will break them every chance that he gets. This kid has zero exceptions to his rules. And if his grades aren't up to par then he loses weekend privileges. Oh and he has no phone. He will not have a phone until he turns 15. And then that phone will be a regular phone not a smart phone. I am the mean mom when it comes to all of this. But let's be honest- I would rather be the mean mom than the mom who just let's him get away with everything.
Now, let's talk TV. We don't have satellite, cable, or antennae at our house. (The no antennae thing will be changing this weekend.) The only thing at our house is DVDs. And that is a good and a bad thing. TV is not allowed to come on until AFTER school is finished each day. And there are some nights that is doesn't come on at all. I have HULU and NETFLIX. And I am known to go to my in-laws on Saturdays to watch the latest episode of Duck Dynasty. But even during the regular TV show season, we don't watch it that night and my kids rarely watch it at all. I will watch some TV shows the next day with HULU or on Saturdays I will catch up for the whole week. But even then there really aren't that many shows on that I want to watch. TV has to be limited for us. If we don't limit it we tend to go overboard and it can become a problem.
Limiting TV works for us. And I think it is a great idea. Especially now. I mean have you seen commercials lately. And after watching some show on the Disney channel last week (the DISNEY CHANNEL) my 8 and 7 year olds came and asked me what a virgin was and what impotent means. I was SHOCKED! It is time to draw on line. Monitoring only goes so far.
Limiting technology is really hard in our house. There is just so much of it. And as much as I limit, there seems to be no limits when you go to Grandma's. And how hard is it to ignore your phone when it alerts you to every email, text message, and Facebook change? It's hard. And like with everything else you have to be deliberate. I can only tell you what we do at our house. And even that does not always work. Please share any ideas that you have. I will be grateful for it. Especially with older kids as it seems like their worlds are saturated with technology more and more.
Tuesday, October 1, 2013
1. When you get home, be at home. Be with your family. Be mommy. I know that sometimes you have to bring work home. I have done that. But really if at all possible wait until the kids are asleep and do it then. Or sit at the table while they are doing their homework and do paperwork then.
2. Make sure that your boss knows you are a mom and being at home is important. If you know that you have a soccer game on Tuesday night, tell your boss about it. 9 times out of 10 they won't ask you to work over if they know that you have a family obligation that night.
3. If you have a flexible schedule and can re-arrange your lunch break or come in late if there is something is going on at school do it. Be there as much as you can. But also make sure that if you can't be there that your children know how proud you are of them.
4. Realize that any and all "working mommy" guilt has to go out the window. Some moms have to work, some moms want to work, and some moms get to stay home. It's the way it is. You are still a good mom no matter what and you are setting a great example to your kids about work ethic, having a career, and time management.
5. No matter what- remember that you are the mom God made for your children. All else aside. You are the best mom for them.